Sunday Firesides: Don’t Judge ‘Til You See the Whites of Their Eyes

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A man eye focused on cornea.

Have you ever gotten into an argument with a significant other over text messages? You were certain that some intrinsic weakness in their character was to blame, and as the debate proceeded, the apparent scale of this problem, as well as your fury, rose dramatically. When you eventually met face to face, though, emotions of attachment poured back, and your hatred vanished almost instantaneously.

Have you ever had a buddy that you thought you adored until you began following them on social media? The longer it had been since you’d seen them in person, and the more their digital postings had been your sole contact with them, the more you felt like you couldn’t bear them. When you finally met up again, you said to yourself, “No, no, I really like this person!”

Our bodies, and even our voices, are becoming less and less important in our communication these days. People, on the other hand, were designed to communicate in person; nonverbal communication accounts for 93% of all conversation.

Our brain activity and biology practically match up when we are physically there with someone. Our thoughts can imitate what the other person is experiencing, which helps us to comprehend them better.

Most importantly, when we meet in person, we view someone as a whole. Rather of focusing on the solitary, fragile dimension that gigabytes may portray, we recall all of their appealing features. All of the good times spent together. All the kindness that binds us together despite our differences. We learn about the intricacy of their ideas and the activities they’ve taken in private but haven’t done for one-bit affirmation signs.

Instead of abstractions, we view them as people.

“Don’t shoot ’til you see the whites of their eyes,” was an ancient proverb in wartime, aimed to save ammo.

We’d be better off adopting this variant in the present technology age: “Don’t judge ’til you see the windows to their souls.”



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