Sunday Firesides: Care, But Don’t Care

The world is a harsh and unforgiving place. To survive in the wild, you need to adapt – but humans are not always good at understanding how animals feel about their situation. In this fireside chat, we’ll discuss how care for your animal friends can actually hurt them because it’s not easy to tell what they want or need.

illustration of folded paper hearts with "care but don't care" title.

“I’d want to be liked.” I’d want to be adored. I’d want to be noticed. I aspire to be successful. I want to come out on top. “I’m hoping for a happy ending.”

“It makes no difference what other people think of me. I’m just up against myself. I just want to do my best. Whatever occurs, occurs. “I couldn’t care less.”

We often move between these two trains of thinking many times a week, if not daily. 

We often believe that our objective in the current day should be to destroy the first and embody the second. 

But, in reality, we must keep the energy of both mindsets in balance.

We may lose site of our real wants if we concentrate too much on results, sacrifice our beliefs, art, or vision to please others and get ahead, and become subject to equilibrium-destroying distress if things don’t turn out the way we hope if things don’t turn out the way we hope.

However, the desire to perform one’s best isn’t what motivates people to get out of bed in the morning. No one likes their employment just because they appreciate the process. Competition and comparisons motivate us. Public acclaim propels us forward. Feelings have an impact on us. Results are what drives us.

We lose perspective when we invest too much emotion, and we lose interest when we spend too little. 

We must go all-in on achieving a certain result… but not to the point that disappointment becomes all-consuming if it is not achieved. 

We need to want affirmation but not be prepared to sell out in order to acquire it.

We must want things fervently, even maniacally, yet be content with the fact that we may not be able to have them.

Being a passionate, Dionysian Stoic is a confusing, conflicting, and undervalued condition.

This is the perplexing state of caring and yet not caring.

This is the condition of grace in life.