Massage Etiquette for Men: 8 Things to Keep in Mind

The last thing you want to do is make your massage therapist cringe. Take a deep breath, relax and follow these eight etiquette tips before asking for that next back rub.

The “Massage Etiquette for Men: 8 Things to Keep in Mind” is a guide that outlines the rules of etiquette for massage therapists.

Man laying while getting massage from another man.

If you’ve ever gotten a massage gift voucher as a birthday or Father’s Day present, or simply want to have one but haven’t yet, it might be a bit frightening to think of a stranger stroking your semi-naked body for an hour or more. When you think about it, it’s a bit of an uncomfortable situation.

I mean, there had to be some unspoken norms to the entire thing, right? Yes, there are some.

If you follow this code of decorum, your time with the therapist will be much more pleasurable for both of you. Here are eight things to consider before getting a massage.

Preliminary question: do you prefer a male or female therapist? This may be a contentious issue among guys. Does having a male massage therapist make you homosexual if you’re straight? Is it cheating to have a lady in your life? The answer is no to both questions. It all boils down to personal choice. Most males, although definitely not all, prefer female therapists, according to anecdotal evidence. I was a bit apprehensive during my first massage that having a lady other than my wife touch me would be strange, but it’s not at all a sexual thing. It’s all about unwinding, not seduction. If it’s an issue for you, though, there’s nothing wrong with getting a massage from a man. Try both and see which one feels more at ease.

1. Take a shower ahead of time. Would you want to massage someone who had just gotten out of the gym if you were a massage therapist? Or from mowing the grass and beautifying the yard? Thank you, but no. Getting rid of the stench and arriving clean and fresh is a must.

Before you go in, cut your sloth nails since your therapist will most likely be touching your feet and hands.

2. Get there early. You’ll have to complete out some health history papers and discuss with the therapist for a few minutes about what you’re looking for before your massage session. Arriving immediately when your appointment begins means you’ll be cutting your massage time in half. It’s best to arrive fifteen minutes early, particularly if it’s your first time. If you establish yourself as a regular, 5 minutes early will enough.

3. Turn your phone off. Nobody wants their phone to ring during what should be a peaceful 30-90 minutes. Even a little vibration may be heard in a calm area, so go nuclear and turn it off. After being on for many months, he probably needs a break.

4. Dress in a manner that is most comfortable for you. Before starting the massage, the therapist will usually inform you this. They’ll leave the room, allowing you to strip and climb on the table, and covering your lower extremities with a sheet. You’ll either strip down to your underwear or go completely naked. It basically comes down to what you’re most comfortable with. If you keep your underwear on, you’re not a prude, and if you take it off, you’re not a perv. However, since the therapist can operate more freely without a textile barrier to truncate their motions (particularly if you’re wearing huge, baggy boxer shorts), you should remove your undergarments if at all feasible.


Your family jewels are never truly exposed, even if you opt to go naked. Despite the fact that you’ll be requested to flip over during the massage, therapists do some clever sheet work to keep everything hidden.

It’s typical to be hesitant to remove your underwear the first time you receive a massage, but you’ll most likely feel more at ease on future appointments. Remember, you’re dealing with a professional who works with human flesh every day and won’t find brief views of your buttocks strange, erotic, or even fascinating.

5. Make an effort to communicate. Is there anything that makes you uncomfortable? Notify the massage therapist. They’ll generally ask what type of pressure you want right away; if you don’t know, tell them, and then let them know whether or not you like what they’re doing. It’s not personal in this sort of situation.

If you don’t want a specific portion of your body touched, let the massage therapist know right away. For example, I don’t enjoy having my feet touched (they’re ticklish, and I simply don’t like feet), so I always tell the therapist before we begin.

So, do you need to strike up a conversation? As previously said, feedback is OK, as is occasional small conversation, but you should not feel compelled to converse. You can if you want, but it’s also perfectly OK to lie in peaceful stillness, shut your eyes, and just enjoy the moment. In fact, falling asleep is a typical occurrence, and your therapist will not be upset in the least.

6. What about bowel movements and other body functions? During a massage, it’s fairly unusual to pass gas. After all, you’re really comfortable, and things simply happen. Even though you’ll be ashamed if it occurs, there’s no need to be; the therapist will overlook it.

While your therapist isn’t bothered by a few toots, they don’t want a gas bomb to go off in the usually cramped massage area. It’s OK to interrupt the session and use the toilet if you have a lot of gas or need to use the restroom. The same is true whether you need to potty or merely blow your nose. It’s OK to take a break.

Some guys do acquire an erection during a massage, however it is uncommon. It’s not anything to be ashamed of (again though, you probably will be). Recognize that it does happen, and that your therapist will just dismiss it. I’d read about this before getting my first massage and was so afraid it would happen that I vowed it would never happen to me.

7. Avoid enquiring about sexual favors (or even joke about them). Duh. Simply said, don’t do that, and don’t even make a joke about it. You’ll irritate your therapist at best, and you’ll be tossed out for good at worst.


8. Make a suggestion. These days, it’s very well assumed to be around 15-20 percent. You may either give your therapist cash (or leave it at the front desk) or add it to your credit card payment. If you’re using a gift card, bring extra cash for your tip, unless the tip is included in the gift certificate.


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