For parents of children in the military, it can be difficult to keep your head above water during a time when news of children killed in an explosion or killed while serving our front page news. In one case in Arizona, two kindergarteners were killed when a homemade bomb exploded in front of their school building. Even though the two boys were not students at the school, it was obvious to those who saw them that this was no random act. The police called to the scene described the scene as a horrible tragedy and called the bomb a potential weapon that could have caused serious injuries or even death. It is easy to see why military parents are worried. These are the children that will be leaving the armed forces soon, and their safety should be their first priority.
The schools have a lot on their agenda besides security and safety, as you can imagine. They must deal with the cost of new buildings, uniforms, facilities and grounds maintenance. Parents of children in the military may not feel like they are directly involved in the day-to-day operations of the school, but they should be. At the very least, they should make sure that the children get to know the other students well. Some schools have games and activities for kids in the military, too, so parents should try to find out about these.
If you have children in the military, it’s especially important to make sure they know where to go and who to contact if something occurs at school. Your child’s Drill Instructor (either the principal or the Drill Trainee) can be a tremendous source of information and help. They can be a direct connection to your child’s parents, or to the base they are stationed at. Your child’s Drill Instructor can let you know if there are safety regulations that need to be followed, such as keeping emergency numbers with them at all times or making sure they have their name and phone number with them at all times as well.
Since children in the military are away from home more often, they may come into contact with other children of their age group, both in the classroom and out. To help your child get used to these encounters, talk to them about what they see going on. Encourage your child to talk about anything that makes them scared, such as gangs, violence, or even other students. Remind them that the military is just a place where they go when they want to be free. Help them understand that being in the army is their chance at life, and that they do not have to worry about any traumas while they are there.
Your child may have friends in the army, so introduce them to them. Ask them about what it is like to be in the army, and let them tell you about their own experiences. At the very least, you can get them involved in some activities that they will enjoy, such as a sports team, or an art class. The more they know other children their own age, the more comfortable they will be around them. This will help your child adjust to their new environment, making it easier for them to adapt in school.
You might also try joining some clubs your child may enjoy, such as drama club or chess club. Getting involved in clubs will help your child feel more at home because there is always someone they can talk to about their favorite subject. Also, try to set aside a certain time each week to talk to your child about something he or she has mentioned to you. This could be their favorite book, or a craft they have created.
If your child has difficulties adjusting in school, do not despair. The most important thing is to make sure that your child is getting plenty of support. It is usually not good enough to have a good friend that is also a child; it is much better if there are a teacher and counselor available for your child as well. This could go a long way to helping your child’s self-esteem.
Try to make sure that your child is not constantly trying to avoid school. If they do, this could lead to bad behavior, such as trying to stay out of class. Your child needs to see that you are supporting them and that you are there for them. Also, remember that a child’s behavior at school will reflect on him or her throughout life, so they need to be encouraged, and not chastised for poor performance.