Here are some survival tips for queers going back to school. Depending on where you are, and how long you’ve been there, you might find yourself isolated in a large city. Even if there are a lot of people around, the dynamics of urban life might make you feel insecure. If you’re Queer, or an immigrant, there is nothing more frightening, than to leave home, and go to a strange, and quite possibly unsafe, environment. As a result, your survival tips might focus on mental preparation, physical preparation, and spiritual preparation for school. Depending on how you’ve been affected by coming out, your education will prepare you for the new situation you’re in and prepare you for it now, as well as for the next situation you might encounter.
– Visiting the Doctor. If you suspect that something might be wrong, and you’ve been sick recently, talk to your doctor. Chances are, you’ll find out that you have something more serious than simple flu, and it could turn out to be something that requires surgery. If you haven’t been feeling well, and now you’re worried about it – go see a doctor right away! You don’t know what is going on in your body. And if you have to cancel your upcoming trip or test date because of your illness, the people at the school where you’re a student will be incredibly grateful to have you back.
– Keep Your Mouth Open. Sometimes when you’re afraid, you can’t speak. People who are afraid sometimes can’t breathe, and you might find yourself physically incapable of speaking, unable to communicate. Try to talk to people as often as you can, even if that just means opening your mouth wide for a breath.
– Learn to Relax. While you’re worried, you’re tense. When you’re stressed, your heart rate goes up and you have a hard time breathing. Your hands might feel sweaty and you might sweat a lot. All of this adds up to make you very uncomfortable.
– Get Rid Of The Stress Or Don’t Let It Get Too Much. So many times, we let stress consume us. Stress can come from many sources – at home, at work, with other people, and so on. If you’re at home, try relaxing activities such as a warm bath or listening to music. If you’re at work, you may want to spend a few minutes by yourself to clear your head and relax.
– Speak Up. Sometimes we feel invisible or powerless, and we might not know how to fix the problem that is stressing us out. Speak up. When you’re told that you’re doing something wrong, don’t just silently assume that you didn’t do anything wrong – say something. You might not get anywhere with your boss, but you’ll get a lot farther with your coworkers.
– Watch What You Eat. It’s been said that one of the leading causes of death among young people, particularly in the U.S., is diet related illness. So, if you’re gaining weight and getting sick, maybe it’s time to start putting good food in your body – and watch what you eat too!
Of course, these are just a few of the survival tips for queers that you can use. Others include learning to self-defense – including bodily injury awareness and knowing how to avoid being attacked. If you’ve had any struggles in your life, you can always use these tips to empower yourself. While you may not feel totally secure right now, there are a lot of ways that you can overcome the discomfort and fear that comes with coming out. Look for more survival tips to empower yourself.