You might think that I’m going to say you should live without your Narcissist, but in truth I don’t want to. I can’t even begin to explain the complications and problems I have gone through trying to get back together with my boyfriend. I will spare you all the details, as these things have already been written about in several places on this site. Suffice to say, however, that it has been nearly three years since I last saw him, and I want to reach out and give him another chance. If you are reading this, it means that you are probably in the same situation.
12 Survival Tips for Living With a Narcissist in situations like this is not easy to deal with. If you have never been living with a Narcissist before, you really owe it to yourself to give it a try. I’m not being flippant or suggesting that you should become a victim of this man; but you should be realistic about what life could be like. Of course, you should take into account the possibility that he could show up unexpectedly to “rescue” you from this situation.
What that usually means is that he will corner you, slap you, force you to talk, and basically try to make you lie. (If he thinks he can get away with it, he will.) Many people who have been in similar situations to report that their first instinct was to lie. I can understand completely why people would do that now. However, if you lie to a Narcissist, he will know it almost immediately, and he will go even farther. There are too many details about this type of behavior for me to mention here.
I will say, however, that there are ways to avoid getting hurt by a Narcissist. If you know you are going to be in a situation where he could snap, your first reaction needs to be to lie down and rest until the situation passes. This will give him time to think about his next move. Unfortunately, some people will tell him they were sleeping or that they were watching television when this is not the case. The moment he snaps, his behavior will become violent. You need to stay calm and collected until he calms down again.
One of the most effective things to do is to let other people help you. Most of the time, other people can take care of themselves when they are around you. They may need a shoulder to lean on or a friend to talk to, and they may be able to help you overcome some of the challenges the Narcissist has placed in front of you. It is always best to trust your own instincts when it comes to dealing with a person like this.
One other thing to remember is that if a person tries to control your decisions or talk you into doing something, do not respond in a negative way. The Narcissist is attempting to manipulate you by making you feel like you do not have a choice in the matter or that your opinion does not matter. In reality, your opinion does matter and having someone present for you to listen to will often help you determine what is best for you and your well being. Remember, you are the one that needs to make the decision.
If you feel safe and comfortable with the situation and feel that the Narcissist is not threatening you in any way, you can leave. You can also try going to a support group for people who have survived similar situations. You can find many support groups online and share your experiences with other people who have been through what you are currently going through. This is a great way to gain strength and support for yourself. It will also help you become realistic in your recovery.
Another thing to remember when you are trying to survive with a Narcissist is to stay as positive as possible. Do not give up on your goals. This can be tough, because you might think people are against you because of the way you act or the way you talk. However, it must be understood that people are not against you because you act badly or because of your lack of communication. Your lack of communication does not mean that you do not care, but simply that you need more time to figure out what you want.